Your Wellbeing: 5 Ways to Live Your Best Life Now
You might be thinking to yourself, "Of course I want to live my best life. That's why I'm here." But have you ever wondered what the most effective way is in achieving that goal? It's a journey with many different steps and paths, which means there's no one-size-fits-all solution. But we can tell you what we've learned from our own lives and our work with clients as professional wellness coaches with experience in research, positive psychology, clinical hypnotherapy and mindfulness. In essence: it all comes down to being who you are and being true to yourself. If you're ready for some empowering advice to help you live your best life now, read on.
Live In The Present Moment
Be here now. We all have our own individual challenges and struggles, but it’s important to learn to be mindful so we can keep things in perspective. We can all catch ourselves dwelling over certain events of the past, but as hard as it may be to let go, it is worth bearing in mind that it ends up being a waste of precious energy as there’s nothing that can be done to change the way things transpired. Worrying about the future is just as taxing, because you don’t ever truly know how life will unfold. The best thing you can do for you, is live in the present moment! When you focus on being mindful and grateful for everything around you, you lead with gratitude, then happiness tends to follow naturally and you will find you attract even more abundance. Stand in your own strength yet be kind, generous and humble; be patient with yourself and others; be gentle when dealing with other people's feelings; try your best not to judge them too harshly (they may just need someone with whom they can talk).
Do Things You Love
When it comes to living your best life now, this is a relatively obvious one but something we tend to put on the backburner. You have to be doing things that make you feel good and happy in order to feel truly fulfilled. But what are those things? How can you find out or remind yourself of what they are?
In order to discover them, we have a couple of suggestions:
- Reflect on the past year-what did you do that made you happy? What were some of your favourite moments from last year (funniest story, most exciting adventure)?
- Do some research online or in books about activities/hobbies/lifestyles of people who seem like really interesting people. Read about their interests and see if any of these interests resonate with you as something that might make for an interesting hobby or lifestyle change.
If you’re feeling stuck, try meditating on what makes you happy. Sit quietly and let your mind wander freely. Don’t focus on any one thing; just let yourself daydream about what makes you happy and what would make you feel more alive. When the answers come to mind (and they will), write them down as if they are already happening right now! Then, look at your schedule. What can you move around in your life to fit in things that light you up?
Nurture Your Mental and Physical Health
Whether you're a workaholic or just have a demanding life in general, it's so important to take care of your mental and physical wellbeing. According to an article published by Psych Central, stress is one of the biggest causes of illness and disease and has both short term and long-term effects that are detrimental. If you don't take time to relax and manage stress effectively, it can lead to heart problems, memory disorders, digestive issues and other serious health issues (Psych Central,, 2022)
To live a healthy life:
- Get enough sleep every night—try exercising in the morning if you find it difficult to fall asleep at night
- Eat healthy meals with lots of fruits and vegetables (and don't forget about water!)
- Exercise regularly—even just going for a walk at lunch will help keep your body in shape
- Avoid stressors by scheduling more free time into your busy schedule
Of course, you don't have to get it right all day, every day but small changes in your lifestyle play a big part in your general wellbeing - so make the time to discover what works for you! Find something that you enjoy doing and do it as often as possible! If you're feeling stressed out, try taking a break. Relax with some music, a short mindfulness meditation, a book, go for a walk or hang out with friends who lift you up!
Connect With Others
Connecting with others gives us a sense of inclusion, connection, interaction, safety, and community. Connecting with the right people is one of the most important things you can do for your wellbeing. It helps you to feel less alone, less isolated, and more in tune with yourself and others. And it’s because of this that connecting with others can also be incredibly healing.
Connecting with others is also about giving someone else space when they need it and being there for them when they want support. It could mean spending time together doing something fun or useful; making plans for a future date; asking how someone is doing; holding their hand when they need comfort; being open about how you're feeling; letting go of any expectations about what will happen afterwards (or even during); listening openly without judgment or advice-giving,the list goes on! These are all ways we can encourage ourselves to form meaningful bonds.
The important thing here is that we're maintaining deep connections—ones where we contribute to the betterment of one another. We don't always have time in our days/weeks/years for deep conversations, but we should try whenever possible as they nourish us both physically, emotionally, and spiritually - And remember, your vibe attracts your tribe! So, take inventory of who you offer your energy to, and how you feel after encountering one-on-one interactions. Do you feel drained or bad about yourself? Or do you feel inspired, happy, supported and elevated?
Set Healthy Boundaries
Setting healthy boundaries is important because it helps to keep your priorities straight and protect your time, health and energy as well as your emotional and physical wellbeing. Science of People explain “healthy boundaries are the limits you place around your time, emotions, body, and mental health to stay resilient, solid, and content with who you are. These empowering borders protect you from being used, drained, or manipulated by others” (Science of People, 2022).
Here are some examples of healthy boundaries:
- Saying no when you want to say no, whether that means saying no to a request or saying no to the temptation of something unhealthy.
- Setting limits on how much time you spend on certain tasks so that they don’t take over all of your attention or prevent you from doing other things like taking care of yourself or spending time with friends and family.
- Being respectfully honest with others about what is acceptable behavior toward you. For example, if someone makes an offensive/inappropriate/unacceptable joke at work, it’s important to speak your truth about how it made you feel and request it not happen again. That way, you can move forward with a sense of empowerment and comfortability in your working environment as your boundaries have been made clear.
Though the thought of boundary setting may feel uncomfortable or nerve-wracking, it doesn’t need to be and it all comes down to practice and communication. Start by defining your limits and understanding what supports you rather than distances you from your wellbeing. Honestly communicate with people about how their actions make you feel in a calm and clear manner. Try not to be afraid to say no - and take time to process.
Remember The Small Things
As you get older, it can be easy to feel like the little things in life don’t matter. But if you take care of yourself, build positive relationships with others and maintain a healthy lifestyle, you’ll start to see that small changes can have big impacts.
Here are five small ways to live your best life now:
Be mindful of the little things: When we're stressed or anxious about work or family commitments we often forget how much energy we've put into other parts of our lives. Make sure you stop and appreciate what's going well for you every day by taking some time out each week to reflect on what's going right with your life and what potentially needs to be restructured. Practice gratitude -- even if it seems like nothing is going right at first!
Be kinder to yourself: Everyone goes through challenging times; it's important not only to be compassionate towards others but also towards ourselves when times get tough! Try using positive self-talk when faced with challenges so that they don't seem insurmountable. Write down what scares you (for example) in order to help you focus positively on overcoming these fears rather than just focusing on negative thoughts which could make things worse.
Whatever you’re going through, we hope these tips have been helpful. If you’re ready to truly step into your power and live your best life yet, get started today with our Empowerment Series. Comprised of over 60+ empowerment practices using meditation, mindfulness, positive psychology, subliminal strategies, you can begin your wellness journey now. Get started today or try our mini series, completely FREE at iswara.life
Science of People (https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-set-boundaries/)